Something happens as we age.
I see it with clients, friends and even myself.
But, first, let’s think back to when we were children, before we were mindful of this whole aging process.
Every day had a discovery in it.
You didn't know what was happening next and it was so exciting!
There were so many possibilities!
Fast forward to adulthood, to the point when you noticed that you were aging.
As adults, the tendency is to cling to what was because we're fixated on predictability - even when we don't like what we predict.
As we age we decide what we needs to happen in order to feel good.
When I get this then…
When I complete that then…
What if you didn't have to know what comes next.
How would you show up?
Right now, I am 27 weeks pregnant. As my belly grows, I'm constantly surprised by what I wake up to.
Who is this person in my belly?
How did my belly button get more shallow overnight?
What just got kicked in there?
Last week when I went to the hospital for my weekly visit - I was told I had to get off my feet as much as possible.
You see, my cervix is wide open and only being held closed by the cerclage.
I go back tomorrow.
Everything is such a mystery.
What will they tell me?
When is this baby going to arrive?
Is it a boy or girl?
What will my life look like in approximately 3 months?
In 3 years?
How can I possibly know?
We take data in and make decisions to give ourselves the illusion of control.
What if you didn't have to ‘control it' for it to work out perfectly?
What if you could just watch it unfold and figure it's all conspiring in your favor.
What would you do with all of that extra time you use up worrying? Fretting? Planning? Strategizing?
Here is the mind blowing part. What if the only reason you're doing anything anyway is because you think it'll make you feel better?
What if you just began doing things that make you feel better right now.
No more - when this, then that.
What if all you need is a nap and a chocolate chip cookie to feel better right now? Isn't that a nice shortcut?
What if all of this staying present, checking in with yourself and feeling better leads to the million dollars, the dream career, the baby or the fantastic partner?
What if striving for all of those things only makes you feel worse and if you finally GET THEM, you don't feel better at all?
Sadly, I have many clients in this predicament.
Happiness is never in the thing you're chasing.
My biggest question for you: Can you cultivate the mind that you had as a child - that each day could lead you somewhere exciting and surprising?
Remember how you felt Christmas morning - not even able to sleep the night before because of how excited you were for what the next day would bring?
Today can be that day.
It's right here.
Where are you?